Re: separated for over a year, son lives with me...
You need to speak to a family law attorney as soon as possible. I'm not sure what state you're in, but some states allow for limited scope representation, which means you may be able to majorly cut back on divorce fees.
Limited scope representation is a way for attorneys to offer their services on a less-broad basis. Instead of charging a retainer and taking on a case from start to finish, attorneys are now able to advise clients on how to proceed on a case-by-case basis. If a case is straight forward, an attorney may be able to guide a client through the paperwork and legal jargon without needing to represent the person for the entire duration of a case. Limited scope representation can help empower litigants in their cases by putting them in touch with someone knowledgeable, and because the attorney is offering a limited service, the associated fees will be lower.
You shouldn't have to support your child by yourself. It may save you money in the long run to talk to an attorney and establish some kind of support payment system.
