Thank you Sue and actually my self esteem has taken a knock of late. I do feel that my partner deserves someone better than me, hes a good guy and Im very all over the place, which he doesnt deserve.
As for my ex, well he is so many things all rolled into one and it depends which one I am dealing with. It appears that he wants so desperately to get things right but insists that he needs me to be able to do it.
I know he shouldnt need anyone, thing is yes the marriage had its problems (which he recognises) but he wasnt like he is now. People did respect his ability to get things done, his drive and ambition. Now he's just a big mess. One good thing is that his arrogance seems to have got burried to a degree.
Today was a hard day and didnt go too well.
It would seem I now have insomnia...thats a new one, usually I escape to sleep.
Don't beat yourself up too badly- love is complicated, and we can only do our best. In fact, I'm sure you're a wonderful woman or you wouldn't have two men so captivated. :)
You should maybe consider talking to a close friend or councilor. You shouldn't have to go through all of this in secret. That sounds stressful. Hang in there, and good luck!
