my husband is a workaholic 24/7 cares more about making money than spending quality time with family. If I let him drink he will 24/7 he is a addict pill popper. and gets very defensive when I tell talk to him about any of the above. Easy aggravated is passive aggressive especially when he drinks so I have to be on tippy toes. this is my second marriage with a 16yr old son. hubby doesn't have anything in common with my son doesn't go out nor do any outside activities with my son. hubby practically raised my son. My parents are on vaca here at my house they see lazy physically (not work) house chores. wants me to do everything he never has time cause he has to work and make money. I'm so tired of him. I can really go on and on. we went for dinner this happed twice. He always mentions my son doing something wrong all assumptions and it's annoying already so my mom got mad they went at it today during dinner they got loud at the restaurant my dad walked out he and my mom did to I stayed and paid but was so embarrassed I wanted to die we left our food. then he was texting for the rest of the night every other word was curse words... ugh!! awful

I am truly sorry for what I am about to say but I was married to a man exactly that way. For 20yrs and for those 20yrs every time he was working late and belittling our 18 yr old he was having an affair behind my back. I am not saying yours is having one but I would look close to the signs and pay attention. I know I should have, there where many woman in and out of our marriage in 20yrs, until I told him to leave. Good luck

I sometimes suspect that he is cheating but the thing is that figure out a way to investigate numbers or places he has been and turns out to be work related. I know he has friends that are single and would love to take him out to hang out. But he works at home... I'm the one that works outside the house. I'm a hairdresser so I;m also working on saturday's... he wants to go to counseling but let me tell you if it doesn't work out I'm done... seriously done.. thanks for sharing your story, I hope it's not my case but trust me I will be on the look out... cause if it is... bye bye hubby... thanks again

It might help to get a counselor. If you have someone you can gain repore with to talk about these things, then game plan. Maybe let him know that you would like, xy&z to change. That you need these particular things from him. See his reaction. No change, then you make changes. If you have counselor or pastor, someone or group (ie as here even) to bounce ideas off of, but concrete of what you want & need.
He sounds like player (my ex was same way, a player, life is a big game & attention is on him one way or another it is NOT about the marriage or family ongoing & stable EVER). Think these types have to fall on their fanny/ hard sometimes because as long as someone is cradling them they will suck their thumbs & demand to be fed. We are not their mother we are their wife. Spanking doesn't work, giving them more, doesn't work.. being a wife, expecting to be treated as such.. my ex wanted a mommy & a lot of em. Try to organize it for yourself, what you want & need, then let him know. You are his wife, his partner, not his mommy. Had one of these types too..
One more thing, usually it doesn't have a thing to do with the love because a mature man will deal with things in mature ways regardless. So, just try to act as you do, his wife & then expect him to act like your husband, not your son..
TAKE CARE & God Bless!

yes your right he is just like that. He thinks that life is a big game.. Always inventing new businesses and he knows more than anyone else. His top priority is work his business connections and "partners" and the drinking YUK!!! Can't do anything in the house cause he has to work and make money money.. I know when he is drunk I threw his behind out twice, we went to counseling and because of what happen last night at dinner he said he wants to go to counseling. but I dont want it to be a pattern. he apologized to my mom and my mom read him the book!!! I'm so sick of this.. I'm a divorced woman.. doesn't he realize that I'll divorce him too?? I'm going to take him on the offer of the counselor but thats it this is it.. To be honest I'm a little afraid cause the first divorce was horrible. I went through alot with my son alone... that's why I haven't left him.. Plus my son is 16 almost done with HSch. preparing for college now a car... lets see what happens with this counseling.

You deserve better. My ex- husband thought verbal abuse is the way you treat women, that the way he treated me was only over critical or normal. We went to counseling three times. The last time he didn't want to talk or set goals and when we did talk it was in circles or he said really ****ty things. Your husband sound like he has the same mentality and will never change. get out and do it fast.

well we are going to counseling next week is our second visit. I'm going to try but I'm also preparing myself just in case it doesn't[ work out. I went to counseling with my ex husband and the counselor said in the first visit we really shouldn't try anymore so I left him. thanks for your advise