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Re: should I get divorce

It might help to get a counselor. If you have someone you can gain repore with to talk about these things, then game plan. Maybe let him know that you would like, xy&z to change. That you need these particular things from him. See his reaction. No change, then you make changes. If you have counselor or pastor, someone or group (ie as here even) to bounce ideas off of, but concrete of what you want & need.
He sounds like player (my ex was same way, a player, life is a big game & attention is on him one way or another it is NOT about the marriage or family ongoing & stable EVER). Think these types have to fall on their fanny/ hard sometimes because as long as someone is cradling them they will suck their thumbs & demand to be fed. We are not their mother we are their wife. Spanking doesn't work, giving them more, doesn't work.. being a wife, expecting to be treated as such.. my ex wanted a mommy & a lot of em. Try to organize it for yourself, what you want & need, then let him know. You are his wife, his partner, not his mommy. Had one of these types too..
One more thing, usually it doesn't have a thing to do with the love because a mature man will deal with things in mature ways regardless. So, just try to act as you do, his wife & then expect him to act like your husband, not your son..
TAKE CARE & God Bless!

Re: should I get divorce

yes your right he is just like that. He thinks that life is a big game.. Always inventing new businesses and he knows more than anyone else. His top priority is work his business connections and "partners" and the drinking YUK!!! Can't do anything in the house cause he has to work and make money money.. I know when he is drunk I threw his behind out twice, we went to counseling and because of what happen last night at dinner he said he wants to go to counseling. but I dont want it to be a pattern. he apologized to my mom and my mom read him the book!!! I'm so sick of this.. I'm a divorced woman.. doesn't he realize that I'll divorce him too?? I'm going to take him on the offer of the counselor but thats it this is it.. To be honest I'm a little afraid cause the first divorce was horrible. I went through alot with my son alone... that's why I haven't left him.. Plus my son is 16 almost done with HSch. preparing for college now a car... lets see what happens with this counseling.

Re: should I get divorce

You deserve better. My ex- husband thought verbal abuse is the way you treat women, that the way he treated me was only over critical or normal. We went to counseling three times. The last time he didn't want to talk or set goals and when we did talk it was in circles or he said really ****ty things. Your husband sound like he has the same mentality and will never change. get out and do it fast.

Re: should I get divorce

well we are going to counseling next week is our second visit. I'm going to try but I'm also preparing myself just in case it doesn't[ work out. I went to counseling with my ex husband and the counselor said in the first visit we really shouldn't try anymore so I left him. thanks for your advise