I am so sorry you are going through this terrible time. I can relate to the pain you are going through. We put our faith, our trust, our loyalty in our men but they don't. Hang in there. As terrible as it is right now, it will eventually get better. I couldn't function at first either because of the pain but I can now. My advice is to get a lawyer one way or another. Make him pay child support and the bills while you get on your feet. Its a very difficult thing to but it is in your best interest.
I don't think we are ever totally prepare for divorce. I can only tell you things get really hard and then you get use to what ever comes along. The hit of divorce throws us off, but we get stronger with every hit. I can relative to the no job, no money. The flea(ex) still pays my bills and buys my son everything he needs. He does get nasty every now and then but he still comes through with the money part. I wish you all the luck in the world and pray, I was not one to pray but now I see how much it really helps. Take care and stay strong.
Yes, I do know the blows are going to be hard when I file the legal separating papers. But I'm still going through with it. Enough is enough. I told him to get in all the blows he can, it is war! I was 36 when I got married and I will take on the challenge of starting from square one. My oldest daughter is a sailor and travels the world. My youngest daughter cries when she gets a
C on her report card and is a competition dancer. She has already told him without me coercing her that she wish he would leave for good. This is because he do not try to be decrete about confronting me about anything. He travels 4 days out of the week and try to come home in a puff to camophlage his dirt. She stops him in his tracks. So I don't have to worry about how he handle my kids. Thanks to me not covering up for him for so many years, they see him for what he is. They will be great. I have encourgaged them from birth to be respectful,loving, fair, and ambitious and above all learn how to forgive those that trepass against them. My Husband had capitalized on our loeve and devotion long enough. I now see him as a creep. I cooked, got the kids to school and activities, worked, encouraged them, supported them. He only bought them clothes, shoes, gifts, and paid the mortgage. No moral support whatsoever. I can see that now. It left him so much time to live 2 lives. The pretend familiy man and the prowling street dog with a woman in every city he worked in. My eyes are wide open now. No smoke covered glasses. I allowed it, thinking he was out working for us. After reviewing our debts, he was just out for himself. We were incidently. But that's ok. What goes around comes around. He lost his business, his truck, IRS took his bank account, his second truck just broke down. And he is about to lose so much more. I'm losing a lot too, but only material things and a dead marriage. my thng is if he won't move after the separation is filed. Will I be about to force him out with the evidences that I have. Or can we both live under the same roof under legalIseparation. If I leave it is abandonment. I'll just have to cross that bridge when I get to it.