Really glad you went and got good advice. What he was trying to do was obnoxious and would have been totally taking advatange of you. Good for you for seeking help and protecting your interests!!!
PA: My ex, on the day the divorce went into court, (it was not final on that day, there is a 90 day waiting period) wanted to buy a house, he later lost his fifth job, and a man called wanting to check my credit and stated we were still married (which I knew). My ex acted like I was to be doing him a favor. The divorce papers he had served me with were quite brutal. I e-mailed my Lawyer "help needed!". She wrote back "YOU ARE TO HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH THE BUYING OF THIS HOUSE". It seems like your soon to be ex is trying to take advantage of you like the other poster said. You are separated. Everything you do should be "separate" from the other, not together. My ex was ordered to pay alimony and got an apartment after both Lawyers kicked him out. He later bought a house on his own when I was able to get off the alimony. I am glad you got a Lawyer and are not signing anything without them looking it over. Things like alimony are handled by the Lawyer and based on many factors including the laws in your State. One step at a time.
Thank you for your posts your comments are very very helpful.
Again tonight he wants me to sign the paperwork to have the mortgage changed and said that I didn't realize how much he needs this done this week so he can buy a new house. I said that I wasn't signing anything and that I may not be refinanced (in my name only) when we are legally divorced. He replied nothing will change and he will be on my mortgage still...what is he thinking? He says these things so casually it makes me feel crazy.
I should mention that he is somewhat of a narcissist...not kidding. Like NPD.