Thank you for your posts your comments are very very helpful.
Again tonight he wants me to sign the paperwork to have the mortgage changed and said that I didn't realize how much he needs this done this week so he can buy a new house. I said that I wasn't signing anything and that I may not be refinanced (in my name only) when we are legally divorced. He replied nothing will change and he will be on my mortgage still...what is he thinking? He says these things so casually it makes me feel crazy.
I should mention that he is somewhat of a narcissist...not kidding. Like NPD.