My husband and I have been happily married for 2 years. But together for 7. No real ups and downs. We got along and talked through everything and I felt as if we were on the same page. I felt like everything was going perfect. He seemed to too. He appeared happy and we could spend as much time together as one could imagine. People were jealous of how famously we got along and could be around each other. Then about 8 months ago, I got pregnant. I am due in July. I am really hoping that **** has just hit the fan and he is stressed and doesn't know what he wants and can work through this.

I am in pain and terrified. He says that he wants to explore what another relationship for him might have to offer to test/ compare it to ours. I am trying detach myself and be as distant as I can. But I still love him. We have a home together, and he still wants to make it work. He says he wants to be there for me and the baby and that he always will. He says he loves me very much still and is just 'confused'. I am trying to give him the space, and I am. But I want to keep the 'us' there too, because I love him very much. I enjoy being close and cuddling at night still, and he does too... just gets frustrated..

We have always had a really good relationship/ open communication. So he told me that nothing was bugging him. I noticed the distance about 2 weeks ago, but didn't have a clue what it could be and was jut waiting patiently. Until I saw that it was something far more then just a little thing. As painful as it was, he explained his 'feelings' as best as he can. It was his idea to see a counselor and go from there. I think thank god. I believe that this is just a stepping stone for our relationship. I think we will get past this, and in the end he says he still sees us together.

I am trying to find things to do by myself/ with friends to keep myself busy.. other then work of course. But being 8 months pregnant makes it a little difficult. I am still very hurt, but trying to be understanding and let him do what HE needs to do.

Holding On: I am sorry you have to go through this while pregnant. I find his whole attitude of wanting to explore another relationship with someone else to compare to the one you have disgusting and he is probably having an affair. It is good he has sought counseling. Maybe he is panicking because the baby is coming. As distasteful as this sounds, a Psychologist on t.v. said the "job" of a male is to procreate with as many women as possible before he dies to keep the species going, but I also believe there are some men who are deeply in love/attached to their soul mates, marry and stay married for many years, until death. I wouldn't put up with what he is doing. I would set up a consultation with a Family Lawyer to see what is at stake. I hope he is there for the birth and pays child support if he leaves. Maybe the counseling will turn things around, but the trust is gone. I hope you have family and friends for emotional support.

How sad and incredibly painful for you to go thru this especially when you are pregnant.
I am afraid to say that I think he might be having an affair. My husband said something similar to me and I believed what he said until my girlfriends said it sounds like an affair. I certainly didn't want to ever believe that but it turned out to be true. Try to be strong for yourself and your unborn child....our children will sometimes give us strength we did not know we possess.
Hugs XXX

Stay focused on yourself.
Focus on what you need to have a healthy baby...even if this means that you consciously take him out of your thoughts to your best ability so be it.
You love him. That will not change. You know yourself and you know how YOU feel.
Release the idea of control over the situation because it is HE who is not in control of himself and you cannot control where he is in his thoughts. You can control you or at least carry yourself to where you need to be.

Meditate. If you don't meditate listen to some that are online and center yourself.
You are the sole keeper of this baby regardless of what happens between you are your husband. You are the mom and you need to stay healthy and happy when you can. Stay centered even with the world of hurt and choas around you. Try to be happy in your own space and surround yourself with people and things you love.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=skp5-_lkGFo
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pI84lGG0tOY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_7EatyzpUfw


When I was pregnant (twice) my husband was having an affair.
You are the calm and the refuge for your child and keep telling yourself this.
Growth is often painful, and we never know these things happen to us while we are in them...and these experiences can be so painful. I truly feel for you
Teach your baby how strong it's mother is.
Teach your baby the same strength while you are still pregnant with your baby.
Your baby is blessed you have you as it's mother.

Peace
PA

oh dear.

Will he go to marriage counseling? He needs to find a way to recommit himself to his relationship with you and deal with whatever he'd dealing with (or running away from).

Hugs.