Re: Advice getting through a high conflict divorce
Hi there,
I am sorry for the hell he is putting you through (still) and have some thoughts on what you wrote.
1. ASK your lawyer if he/she is comfortable taking on your stbx in this manner or if he/she can suggest another attorney who would be better suited to this type of battle. HOPEFULLY, if they are working in your best interests then they will be willing to help you move on if it is needed. You may need a high-powered and higher priced shark. Unfortunate but true.
2. Whoever files their taxes first gets the kid if they're being claimed by more than one parent. It sucks but this means you have to file ASAP, even if it means filing early and then later amending your return. If you have a tax person (who is NOT a friend of your stbx) then ask their advice on this. At least it may ease this one problem and put it in his lap. What a jerk.
3. He canNOT make you pay gas for traveling for visitation. However, is he allowed to be alone with your dd in the car if his visits are to be supervised? I'm a trifle confused here.
4. Some judges will take a sudden disability claim and then make the support/alimony decision on what the person earned in the past, seeing that the disability claim is only being used as a dodge to pay their spouse a higher amount.
5. I am amazed he was allowed to file for bankruptcy as the rules for doing so have really been tightened recently. Did he tell you did or are you absolutely sure he did?
6. Taking your daughter to have a DNA test done -- was it a cheek swab? a blood test? sounds borderline abusive but as her dad he's allowed to have a medical procedure done. I guess. Maybe.
7. Every time I reread your story I keep thinking you need a new attorney, one who can and will fight back, knows your court system (the judges!), and is willing to jump on everything trick he does.