I am 6 yrs post divorce. When the divorce happened my x was unemployed so his child support and alimony were based on his UIB income and a very inflated timeshare.
The only court orders he has are to pay alimony and child support and half of Dr copays. He does not have to help me pay health insurance premiums though. The amount of support I get, since it was based on UIB, is very small.
He stopped following all court orders except child support years ago. So, now he is in arrears and it has become over $10,000 that he owes me of court ordered money he was supposed to pay.
I hired an attorney and I am seeing her tomorrow.
I wanted to ask what kinds of things do you have in place for yourself as well as your kids in your court orders. My last attorney really dropped the ball and didn't get me really anything and what he did get was minimal.
So, I am asking about things like whether you got your x to have to pay for half the health/dental/vision insurance premiums? Did your x have to take out a life insurance policy naming you and/or your kids beneficiaries in case something happens and he can no longer pay?
Maybe make a list for me of everything you did get court ordered so that when I see the attorney I can have ideas on things I can be legally entitled to that I am not aware of now.
My son is living with me 100% and he is 17 but about to turn 18 soon but will still be in high school one more year. My daughter is 22 and lives independently but I still pay for her education and supplement her income.
I have bought both my kids cars and computers,
My x has never given them a dime for anything..ever.
Enlightened: I have been divorced for five years. Our daughter was 18 when he left. He was laid off early in the divorce proceedings. He had her on his medical plan at work and when laid off, I got her on health insurance at college for students. Due to many layoffs before, during and after the divorce, I declinedmy Lawyer's advice that he pay her medical/dental co=pays. She had a college fund plus expenses set up by her grandparents and used that money for medical/dental co=pays. The only court order was for alimony and that did not go through until he found another job before the final court date (during the first court date, we were sent home by the Judge because he was collecting only Unemployment benefits even though it was the maximum amount). I pay my own Health, Dental and Eye Insurance which is nearly $400 a month. He paid for her Health Insurance until she graduated from college (when he was not laid off) and she got her own benefits. He lost her card (she never got it) and instead chose to fax proof of insurance to her when she was in the ER!. He paid all of the ordinary bills until the Alimony court order after both Lawyers kicked him out. I went to the local Food Pantry and he took me to a food warehouse once. He took me back to court nearly every year to fight the alimony which was tax deductible for him and only 11K per year. I had been working part time and have a back injury. I was able to get off the alimony after my Dad's Estate was settled and I receive modest amounts monthly from that. Our daughter's Grandma gave her her old car until she got out of college and bought her own. We learned not to depend upon him for anything. I only hear from when I leave a voicemail that one of my family members has died. He has plenty of Life Insurance on himself since he had been in the Military. His Lawyer told me to get low cost life insurance with SBLI which is enough to bury me. I gave him the Timeshare which he bought, which my Lawyer considers to be a liability.