Marie, They want the divorce just none of the real world responsibility at least that has been my experience. I would ask for your atty to file contempt charges because depending on the judge they may insist your ex pay for your atty expenses. Now be prepared, in terms of sometimes this can get lengthy. Usually 45 days sometimes longer it depends on if he has an atty or not. My atty told me anytime anything is filed you can count on no less than 45 days based upon how crazy your ex happens to be .. lol .. sorry I say it like that because I'm going ton 2 1/2 years of trying to get divorced .. hugs hang in there ..