I hope you are taking care of you .. it is shocking to realize the person you were with for so many years has become a perfect stranger. Please find a divorce care group in your area, if you can get counseling do it .. you need lots of support right now. You do NOT have to make any decisions today about anything outside of getting yourself well. Your STBX is going to say anything and everything to get you to make a knee jerk reaction if you can't afford an atty look into legal aide just because you need to know what your rights are .. he can't "make" you do anything .. big hugs ..

Don't worry you can get another love it is not the end of your life i,m a single man black let,s hook up for marriage.
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send me your email address i,m interested to have you as my wife i will clean all your tears.
take care.
tony