I have been married only a year, but I feel as if this isn't going to work. I feel Like I have married a giant child...A very disrespectful,negative, lazy giant child. I often have to do everything myself or it will not get done, and I feel as if I might as well be alone if that's the case. He also is very judgmental and nagging. I always have to hear the same thing over and over--I admit I should have chose better. He had never lived on his own when I met him-he was raised by his grandmother, who did everything for him. He won't even wash dishes! He was spoiled to rotten death when I got him and i should have known better. I figured every man has to grow up and become a man--What I should have said is every man has to be a grown man already. I am tired from taking care of his needs. I haven't done anything for myself in years...since we got together. Now I feel like I have had enough. When I said those vows I thought I had a forever love. It wasn't until we moved together that I realized I was just a replacement of his grandmother, i am to do everything, or watch everything fall apart around me. I am exhausted. Furthermore, the only time he wants to be near me physically is to get some. I deserve better. I am a beautiful, smart, young person and I know that I could have someone who will be his own man as well as MY man. I have tried to talk to him he ignores it. I am tired of crying, I am tired of feeling used, I am tired of being judged as beneath someone who can't even wash his own draws!!
I DO NOT want to be a heart-breaker and leave him but I feel so F*&%ed up about him now...
What to do: If there is any love, do you want to try marriage counseling? I hope you have a job and no children yet, this way you can easily get divorced and move on. Next time, look carefully before you leap! Get a free consultation with a Lawyer.
OMG GIRL.
I am you 23 years later. DONT have children if you are
not happy now. Having children will make things harder
in the long run. I have the same relationship you have
but with children. The children are now 18,15 and I
cant support myself and them!! I want you to look very
hard at your current situation and wonder how he would
be with children. Would he help with children? if he
don't help with anything now then he wont with them either.
And your attention from him will be directed to the children. That doesn't go well either, trust me. You think
your tired of doing everything now, add some little ones
under your feet!!! If you are young then you have a long future ahead of you and you can find love again!!
GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!!
So sorry but I wish someone would have told me to get out
before the children came along. I love me children don't get me wrong!!! but not with him.