how often can you get out of the house? What do you like to do? can you get a job (even if it's just a few hours a week)? can you volunteer somewhere - it can be easy to meet people there! volunteer at a couple of different places, that way you'll interact with a variety of people.
how about a support group for people going through a divorce?
Robin: I joined a Health Club and keep the t.v. or radio going all the time in the house to cut back on the lonely times. I also have a cat. Before getting a pet, of course, it is important to check into the costs and whether or not they are allowed where you live.
It's a fight within yourself to keep pushing yourself. But the suggestions above are good ones. It lightens up some of the hours. I work and I threw myself into my job because I didn't like going home to an empty house. I avoided the romantic movies altogether for quite some time.
I found blessings in my two married daughters and the grandchildren that they gave me, and my home has never looked cleaner. Getting rid of junk, straighten out closets, cleaning things I never thought to clean, didn't give me company, but what a sense of pride that I could control what my home looks like.
I am not going to lie to you. It is an up hill climb at night. It is lonely, but I learned to call at least one person, near or far, and make lunch dates. Volunteering at the church is always a good idea. But the real battle is looking in the mirror and believing in yourself because the self esteem is shot. Writing journals helped me. I vented on those pages to keep my sanity.
I keep asking God, and trusting that he knows what he is doing. Good luck to you, we are here anytime you need to talk.
I totally understand what you are feeling and going through. Although my divorce was my decision....I am the one that has turned my life up side down. I moved to a different state leaving my adult son and the few friends that I had.
Starting over and learning to be your own person again is the scariest thing ever, but remember you are not alone.
you must force yourself to get out of the house and have some human contact even if its the last thing you thing you want. It will help.
Hang in there it will get better.
I feel your pain. I have been married for 21 yrs and 2 college aged girls. My husband 2 yrs ago up and moved out no warning. I let him come back twice and he still cheated on me after that. It's been over 2 yrs still not divorce and we are trying to do it without lawyers. He makes me feel horrible about myself and has a girlfriend yet is dragging his feet. I feel like I am in a never ending nightmare.
Please get an attorney. It is sooooo easy to mess up a divorce, and there are a lot of in's and out's that he make take advantage of. He makes you feel horrible about yourself, don't later look back and say, "I wish I'd had an attorney but I felt so beaten down I just did whatever the ex said in order to keep the peace."