I feel your pain. I have been married for 21 yrs and 2 college aged girls. My husband 2 yrs ago up and moved out no warning. I let him come back twice and he still cheated on me after that. It's been over 2 yrs still not divorce and we are trying to do it without lawyers. He makes me feel horrible about myself and has a girlfriend yet is dragging his feet. I feel like I am in a never ending nightmare.

Please get an attorney. It is sooooo easy to mess up a divorce, and there are a lot of in's and out's that he make take advantage of. He makes you feel horrible about yourself, don't later look back and say, "I wish I'd had an attorney but I felt so beaten down I just did whatever the ex said in order to keep the peace."