Sarah,

This is where "killing them with kindness" will pay off for you in the long run. Never criticize the kids' mom where there is even the slightest chance they could hear, no eye rolls, no snorts of disgust or disbelief, nada. Just try to think -- how can I make this better for the kids? THAT is what will make him happiest, if you're not a stress-bringer in his life over this issue but are also looking out for the kids' best interests.

Please read some books on the subject and get your man to couple's counseling. He and you need to be on the same page regarding some of these issues or you will continue to feel neglected, angry and unheard. And that's a recipe for disaster and heartbreak. For many, many people it is easier for them to adjust to a different way of thinking when an uninvested 3rd party guides the way.

My husband ex wife had her new bf move before their divorce was settled. I met my husband right when they were separated from each other n their divorce was in action. He moved in and later we got married which set his ex wife as a surprise. Her relationship ended and now she makes every excuse in the book to contact my husband her ex. One was can you fix my car or can you come over because their is something making a noise in our sons room. I respected her as my husbands ex but she is doing everything in her power to **** me off. I dont know what to do