Sharon: I have been divorced since 2009. I had read that it takes two years on average to "heal" from a divorce and be ready to move on. I keep the t.v. or radio on and have a pet to combat the lonliness. About 2 1/2 yrs. after the divorce, someone found me. I nearly rejected him, but took time to think about the situation and sent him a conservative Valentine just to let him know I was still interested. No, it's not perfect, but I had vowed I'd never date again after the divorce. I never thought anyone would want me in my late forties - thought everyone was married, but there are a lot of divorced people out there - some looking for a new start. If I were in your situation, I would stay off the dating web sites for a while and give yourself more time. Please be careful about these sites, I've heard some only want sex.