Jackie: I was married to a man for 21 years who also lost many jobs (I worked part time for half the marriage - long story). You need a consultation with a Family Lawyer ASAP (see if you can get a free one). Many men want full custody so and/or quit jobs so they don't have to pay child support. My ex wanted everything. Please close all joint bank accounts, joint credit cards, joint lines of credit, etc., so he will not take advantage of you financially if you are seriously considering leaving the marriage and I think you should. People who are controlling are considered abusive.