I have been doing this dance for 2 1/2 years at this point and in January of 2015 it will have been 3 years that he's been out of the house. Not every divorce is like this however mine has been .. I have been to court so much that the bailiffs when I come in think I work for an attorney. Try to let it go as much as possible in terms of allowing it to affect your well being keep taking care of you first and just go the course. Trust me it could be worse .. big hugs.