Research the Michigan laws. Every state varies. Also find an attorney. You need someone to represent you who knows the law. There are some successful divorces which are pro se (no counsel), but it is better to have someone to represent you and back you up. Lawyers are paid to know the law. I have one right now handling my divorce and he is great. There are also attorneys who will work for free. Call the local State Bar and also call your legal aid office. Also think before you file for divorce. Have you tried counseling?? Think about this long and hard and think about how your life would be without him in it. Would it be worse, or would it be better? I had to think about a lot of things before I filed. You want to make sure that this is something you really want to do. Some people think they want something but then change their minds. This is a tough decision. Just make sure you're doing it for the right reasons. Either way you deserve to be happy.