Joy: I think Normalwoman had a good idea. You could also celebrate and open gifts on Christmas Eve. I remember my Dad used to let everyone open one gift then and it is when I give my gift to his widow and I spend Christmas elsewhere because she is elderly and not up to big celebrations anymore. I am thinking the holiday visitations are in writing in your divorce agreement, but whether they are or they aren't, if I were in your situation, I would talk to my Lawyer because he is not cooperative and being selfish in insisting that they spend Christmas with just him two years in a row and not with you at all. I had my Lawyer talk to his - many do, it saves a lot of stress. Your ex's Lawyer is representing HIM and his interests, not yours, so talking with him is unproductive. Best wishes.