Have been married for 30 years in an abusive relationship, me and the kids. Left him for a year but came back. Never had good sex in years. Can have sex twice or once a year. I'm getting tempted tobstart seeing someone else but i don't want to cheat on him. My kids want me to leave so that i can be happy. I don't even miss him even if i dont see him for three years. Hiw do you leave a 30 years marriage. Any ideas.
I left after 31 years of abuse. The book that saved my life: THe Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans.
You must make plans to leave safely. Please don't get involved with someone else. Don't give him a reason to beat you or even kill you. See a therapist, or call a women's shelter for help in leaving.
My mom was in a abusive relationship with my father. As a teenager I prayed that they would get divorced. She did the get involved with someone else thing after all us kids were grown but lied to me about it. Do you and your kids a favor and get divorced before getting involved the someone else. All of you (except your current husband, and he doesn't metter) will feel better.
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