meh: My ex shoved me in the shoulder. Please call the domestic violence hotline and/or your local women's services center. My parents fought for the last two years of their long marriage. It is better for the kids to be in a broken home than to hear the fighting, etc., and domestic violence. See if you can get a consultation (sometimes the first one is free) with a Family Lawyer. See about voucher day care (Govt. help in paying) if you do not have anyone to watch your kids and are going to look for/working. Also, the Boys and Girls Clubs of America and the YMCA offer school aged child care. If you are not working, go to your local unemployment office to see about a job to help pay off your loan. There are anti-poverty/unemployment offices which help train people to work in medical offices and as home health aides either caring for or doing errands for the elderly. I know a woman who was 60 and did that work after having been laid off.