I got a divorce after 31 years of abuse.

What would you like your life to be like? Any dreams/goals, etc? Take little baby steps. Sadly, no one can change your life except you .

That is the thing....you have been all alone (as I was)......

I have been married 29 years. My situation is similar to yours.

Bea,
I'm so sorry for your sadness. I was married for 25 years to a man who took me for granted and mistreated in many ways. I've been divorced for over a year now and the pain is easing and slowly I'm starting to learn who I am. It took me many years to say "I want a divorce" but I finally did. Take one step at a time.