I also live in Washington State. Was married for 19 years and my ex had to pay $500 a month in alimony (spousal support) for 4 years even though I had a 37 hour a week job. Spousal support could not be reduced during that time. Your getting screwed here. Find someway to get a lawyers help. Can a family member or friend help with Lawyer fees? Can you find a Lawyer who will take payments. I wish you the best of luck.