He sounds abusive. I would call your nearest women's services center for support. Also, if you start thinking about divorce again, I would contact a Family Lawyer to see what is at stake. Sometimes the first visit is free. My Lawyer told me not to involve myself in what my ex was doing (i.e., girlfriend), but our daughter was 18. As long as the woman/women in his future, should you or he decide to end it, have a good relationship with your kids should he have a long term relationship with them and they are not violating the law and respecting you as the mother of his kids.......I know someone who is planning on cutting ties with the ex once her kids are grown. How can you trust him again? Some people can patch things up and trust again, but it takes a long time to regain trust. I would not get back into bed again with him until he has been tested for STDs. He may have been intimate with the other woman.