Cheryl: I dated a bipolar man after my divorce and my cousin and grandpa have/had it. It sounds like your husband is not on any meds. Make sure the Attorney and Judge know about the BPD. You will get money back you have spent on legal fees when the home is sold. If you have no minor kids together, I recommend you sever ties with him if he fails to get help/meds. Remember, every call, e-mail, text, court time and phone call to your Lawyer you will be charged for so make sure contact is urgent and let them call you. My ex bf lied a lot, too, and had money issues. Their unpredictability is part of the disorder. Make sure you cancel all joint credit cards, joint accounts, joint lines of credit, etc., so he cannot abuse them. A Lawyer would tell you to do this. My heart goes out to you.