Nicole: What you are experiencing with the kids is called "parental alienation" (ex or soon to be ex turning the kids away from ex spouse). You should be able to get alimony if he can afford it and there is not a huge difference in your ages (he's older and retired and/or sick). I would go to your nearest women's services center or call the nearest Bar Association to see if there is free legal help available, otherwise, the Judge decides. Also, research the alimony/divorce laws in your State on line.