I am so sorry. Sadly, we cannot make anyone change, and you don't owe anyone an explanation. It is/was your husband's decision to behave...betray you and the children...... the way he did. If someone asks you what happened, i would say..."ask him." Don't waste time and energy on him. He has the answer...you don't.

Take care of yourself, little baby steps; do things that make you feel good (at least for that moment) so you can take care of your children; go to therapy for YOURself.

Feelings aren't right or wrong, they simply are...allow yourself to feel ALL of your feelings. Grieve the way you need to. xo

I understand how you feel. Unfortunately, our stories are similar and I'm going through the same thing. At this point, there is no guidebook for this. You have to take it day by day and allow yourself and outlet to release your anger (exercise, shop, eat, etc.)so it wont stay pent up.

Don't try and understand him (because you wont). Use this time to work on yourself and being there for your kids.

PS.Y ou don't have to give anyone any details if you don't want to. Surround yourself about positive people as well...that helps.