I should have known right at the beginning of our courtship/marriage I asked him what his dreams was/are he said he did not have any 25 years+ later he still does not have any. I have developed no interest in the physical side of our relationship, i feel constantly sad because I am just there in front of him and he looks right through me. I have tried every thing to get some reaction from him but i don't get any. If I was a bottle of beer and a pack of smokes I would get more of a reaction. I am just incredibly sad and the prospect of spending the rest of our lives together makes me think of suicide. The picture of him mum dying of cancer in one room and his dad reading his books in another just haunts me. I know I was in love with him I don't think he was in love with me. He was married very young and had 2 girls to him first wife. I think she got all of his hopes and dreams and i go the recriminations and disappointments. Just really sad ........
I feel your pain. Married for 28 years - was married at 21 (way too young) two grown children and I'm done. Tired of trying to make it work. He blames me for everything. He is a very nice person, not abusive, but we have nothing in common. He can sit and drink his beer, smoke and listen to his music all by himself every Friday night. I have no interest in drinking alone or with him. Socially and with friends for sure. Family had a huge blow out on his birthday and I told him I wanted a divorce (not the first time this has come up) and now he has totally ignored me for over a month. I finally went to attorney and gave a retainer and I'm so stupid that I am actually contemplating talking to him to see what we can do to work it out because he is a nice man (it won't work out and I know it). Just sad to break up the household, friends, family, etc.
A tiger doesn't change their stripes. Are you in the "What if?" mode? His track record speaks volumes! If you are the only one trying to make this marriage work...., just when is enough is enough? Don't let fear guide you. Don't you deserve more? better? Your "gut feeling," that inner voice, will never give you a bum steer!