Jenny: It seems like he's trying very hard to avoid paying child support by quitting his job, disappearing, etc. Someone like this who has been in jail and come into some money, possibly by doing something illegal since it is such a large amount, I would not be involved with, i.e., you cannot depend upon someone for child support who will probably be in and out of jail. If the law catches up with him and garnishes him, that seems like the best way, but, in the meantime, shop at thrift shops for what your child needs if money is tight for you and visit your local food pantry or discount supermarket/wholesale food place.