I am in the same boat,and it is definitely not what I wanted to be doing at this age. It is painful to go to the store and see couples together, and realize there is no one who cares. I couldnt even find a forum to join that could relate to someone getting a divorce after 45 years.

It's just so hard now he's trying to open up a line of communication. I'm so confused. Forty plus years and he walks out. How does that happen.

My understanding is that it is very common now.

I just feel lost and alone. It is awful. No idea how to move forward. I feel any woman dealing with mess.

I don't what will happen but I do know I must go forward. I cry everytime I think of what's gone. It does seem impossible to let so much of our lifetime go. He's coming for lunch today,maybe it will be better for both of us to be open and honest. Who knows such a mess. Such pain and heartache. No anger,.