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One should NEVER go to counseling with the abuser. He needs to go ALONE to work on his issues. You need to be safe and keep your children safe. Can you go somewhere for awhile? To a shelter? He is dangerous and you don't want to leave your children without a mother. Call the domestic violence hotline; they can help you.
Mia: I would also recommend calling the Domestic Violence Hotline.