your post was the first one I clicked on and I was shocked because the reverse situation is going on in my life right now. My husband pretty much told me the exact same thing and I am devastated because I am the one wanting to figure out what went wrong and how we can fix it. He is still swaying between feeling like he wants to end out relationship and wanting to try seeing a counselor. I am not sure how long you two have been married but my husband and I have been married for almost 15 years now and this was a complete blow. I knew we have had issues over the years but never did I think we would end up here.