If you are not yet divorced you might look into a program by Mort Fetel. I don't work for him nor do I get anything from recommending him (you can find his program under Marriage Fitness). I would recommend this for anyone who is considering marriage or their marriage is on the rocks. I only wish I would have found it sooner, then maybe I wouldn't be divorced now. I am not giving up yet on reoonnecting with my ex, and I have to say this is the hardest thing I have ever gone through. They say God only gives us what we can bear and I have learned one thing. It is both your faults but blame only pushes you farther apart. Get the free emails from Marriage Fitness to see if it's for you. Bless you and hugs.