Sheree: If it ends up he can't pay more, then cut your expenses/seek help. Shop at thrift shops. Sometimes clothes at these shops still have the tags on them. When you get clothes for yourself and other things off season/end of season clearance, you can save, too, and, if your food is taking up too much of your budget, shop at the local food pantry. You can't change his behavior, but you can make adjustments to your own budget. Buy only what you need, not those, "nice to have" but unnecessary items. Moms gave me clothes their kids didn't fit into anymore and it saved me a lot as a stay-at-home mom whose husband got laid off several times (now divorced). I always had to shop at thrift shops. The three necessities "food, clothing and shelter".