Yes! Get a picture of net assets. Each state is different but here in IL, you are able to have half of the assets collected during marriage, meaning retirement, savings, and investments. Since you were married for over 10 years, you are also allowed half of his Social security w/out his permission or knowledge. So if you stayed at home. . . you'll still be eligible. Most states have a guideline for child support and alimony. I would highly recommend seeing a financial adviser who will help you collect a financial picture. Many firms don't charge for a consultation.