Mom of 1: It sounds like your ex likes the idea of visitation long term but cannot handle it. This needs to go back to court. Contact your Attorney if you had one or speak with a Family Lawyer in your area. It may be he is trying to get out of paying child support for a year if he's paying it by trying to take him for a year, also, once your son is older and is school aged, this one year here and one year there of visitation would be very disruptive. Tell an Attorney the same as what you have written here.