My husband and I still live together. He is not home a majority of the time...mostly at his mom's. My son does not like this grandma and cries when he does go. If my husband and I divorce, I know my husband will move in with his mother and my son will be miserable.

Our son is very attached to me and honestly doesn't have much of a relationship with his dad. He sometimes goes days without seeing him.

What are the chances that I could get every other weekend? Or not even that? My son would just be sick without me. That's the only reason I'm staying. :(

Jackie: Most visitations (usually occurring with the father) that I know of are every other weekend. I suggested you have a consultation with a Family Lawyer as they are best when kids are involved. Sometimes the first visit is free. I would talk to your son when he is calm and make sure he is not being abused, verbally or otherwise, by his Grandmother. It sounds like, for the most part, that this marriage is over if he is mostly living with his mother. He may not have filed for divorce since he knows he will have to pay child support and this is the easy way out of that for him.

He does not live with her. He sleeps at our house every night but a lot of his time is spent there in the evenings. He has shared parenting with his daughter from his first marriage so he gets her 3 weekends a month and every other week in the summer.

Women almost always get the children, child support, house, and often alimony. The court system is there to protect women and give them advantages. Get a lawyer and he'll get everything for you. You'll make 100's of times back what you spend on the lawyer. Best investment you can make. Just don't work and don't get remarried (boyfriend is fine - they pay for things anyway, so good to have around). It's a winner take all system (kids, money, house, etc.) and statistically, women win 85% of the time. That's why women initiate most divorces and men have much higher suicide rates after a divorce. Go after him!!! Just use the magic words to the judge "it's in the best interest of the kids" - the judge will roll over and give you everything.

The default parental order is 50/50 for each parent. You both have parental rights to your child and having both parents is the most beneficial. I would start working on a parenting plan with a lawyer.

The way your child feels about his grandparent is irrelevant, however. Nor is where your stbx will be living. That's his choice and he will make his own life decisions in the future, just like you'll make yours. Concentrate on what's important. Finding a way to work out a shared parenting arrangement with your child who needs both of his parents in his life.