Sex is very important, if the sex is good I can overlook other things (like them being lazy, not cleaning etc) but as long as they are a good person and loyal.

Now all depends on age, in the later years I don't think sex is as important as to have a person who will be there for you, your children, vacations, retirement, have fun with etc

I myself would go through counselling, ask them how long to wait.

Please be honest with your self and make sure that another person on the side is not making you think this way. The right thing to do is make these decisions with a lot of thought and care.

Maybe try a sex therapist. Tell your spouse what you like in the bedroom and try it, too many people never ask the other and assume that all is good.

Tell him how to touch you, where and explain exactly what you want.

You may surprise yourself and end up having great sex. What turns you off, hair then shave clean.

good luck, with everything. Life is short and we are only here for a short time. Marriage is what you make of it. It can be a great thing.

I feel like it is not just about sex. I am not attracted to him. I don't want to kiss them. I don't want to hug him. I don't want to hold hands. Sometimes I don't even want to be in the same room with him.