Diane V: I got no money from my ex for nine months after the divorce. He did pay the bills. I went to the local food pantry and he took me to a food warehouse once. I was working very part time. His Lawyer stalled mine so that he would come out ahead financially for a while. I was in my late 40s after the divorce. My ex got his retirement. I got the house and some small alimony. The story goes on, but that is the poverty part. I shopped at thrift shops for clothes. It all comes out in court. Try to meet with the Judge a little and tell them what happened with him withdrawing money or find a new Lawyer. You will probably get alimony if it was a long marriage. I was home with our child for 10 of the 21 yr. marriage.