Ann: Soon-to-be ex helped for a while (long story short) then took me back to court every 1 1/2 years to try to end the alimony. Since your husband is ill and you anticipate poor behavior from him, I would not depend on him for anything. I shop/shopped at thrift shops and went to the food pantry and ate a free church suppers. Get whatever help you need after the court date if you don't get what you want in court.