That may be so RachelDenman67, but my kids father didn't even want them more then every other weekend. He fought me tooth and nail for dollars but in the divorce process he never said a single thing about wanting more access time with the kids. So he has the bare bones minimum time with them and my kids are better for it. Of the little time they spend with them, my older one can see him for what he is: which is a complete deadbeat dad. My younger son looks up to him and my ex forces my younger son to parent him, but it is not up to me to bad mouth my ex. I simply let my kids see him fail and I don't have to say anything at all. My younger son will figure it out on his own in time. My older son already has. You can quote books and studies all you want but you have to figure out what's best for your particular situation and personalities involved.