I have this magnified by a thousand. My ex husband is self employed and says he makes $8000/annually. But yet he finds the money to buy my ten year old an iphone (not just a phone but an iPhone!!) so now he can barge in on our time together whenever he wants through the phone. Needless to say I put limits/restrictions on my childs use of the phone. This is like one of a hundred examples I have of this POS messing with me. What gets me is that he fought me so hard during the divorce for money but didn't give his time with the kids a second thought. Once the divorce was signed he realized he had totally dropped the ball vis-a-vis his time with the kids and so he is extremely stubborn, uncooperative, impossible to work with on this, emotionally and psychologically tormenting especially me but my older son as well. I feel totally powerless to put a stop to it. All the courts/attorneys want to deal with is physically abusive criminals, and although he is very very bad, and causes me and the kids never-ending pain and suffering, he's not the worst possible.

you need to protect yourself & your son from your abusive ex-husband. You need to file a Restraining Order against him. Just go to your police station. They will advise you. Just say the truth. How you think he may hurt you & your son. How he looks at you in a menacing manner. How he has threatened to discipline your child in a manner that may result in permanent physcial injury. How you feel threatened by him. Keep it general and nothing that can be disproven, i.e., he punched me in the face. The restraining order is almost automatic and will ruin his life. He will be consumed by it. He may even lose child visitation. Just make stuff up. Please file the Restraining Order and let us know how you make out.