Patrice: The same thing happened to me. My heart goes out to you. My ex told a long time senior neighbor that he was going to move out when our daughter went off to college. He stashed a lot of money in his retirement accounts - no problem cause I got the cottage and he got his retirement money - MA is a 50/50 split of assets, even if it's "on paper". He would not move out initially, then got his own apt. Finances: He refused minimal alimony for 9 months, but did help with bills. I went to the local food pantry. I ate supper at church suppers for the poor. When things got better, I donated some stuff to the food pantry (gave back). Married 21 yrs., he stayed for our daughter, was dissatisfied at the 10 yr. mark, never home, etc. I kept the house clean and took good care of our daughter. I told our daughter to just go on with her life (she was 18) and enjoy herself and not get wrapped up in our drama.......hope this helps. If you don't already have a Lawyer you really like, I'd recommend getting one ASAP. Family Lawyers are best when kids are concerned. Mine was still considered a kid since she was a full-time college student. Research the divorce laws on line in your State and remember every e-mail, phone call, court time and face-to-face meeting with a Lawyer people get charged for so make sure it's important when you speak with them. Best wishes. Let us know how it goes. We do care. I was divorced in 2009.