Elizabeth: I was divorced in 2009. My grown daughter and I learned not to depend on him for anything. I've been in and out of counseling since 2005. I would suggest you try counseling. Maybe he will get tired of the business/time commitment and sell it and you two could split the profit from it - hope so, seems like you both need to move on - especially for your own sanity. I'm involved with a family in which this is occurring (long story). My ex was abusive due to Asperger's Autism which I did not know he had (another long story). Best wishes to you.