My husband of 25 years says he wants a divorce but he does not plan on leaving anytime soon, maybe around tax time for financial reasons. We still do everything together and he comes home after work. I had received a promotion that was taking a lot of time away from him and he said he is tired of that happening. But before he even mentioned the divorce I had been coming home exercising and doing all the things that he wanted me to do. He claims to still love me and said that he is still in love with me but he is just really tired and needs a little bit if freedom with monew. I am sorry I am all over the place but I am having good a very hard time with him asking me for a divorce.
I would strongly recommend you have a consultation with a Lawyer. Since he has asked you for a divorce, I think he should leave. You would think he would have been happy for you since you got a promotion. With the extra time you spent at work, he's had time to himself and his "freedom". My ex filed and tried to take the house. As soon as I got the papers, I went to a Lawyer. There is a lot at stake in long term marriages, like retirement, health insurance, housing, etc., so it's important to see a Lawyer. Like the other poster wrote: what about what you want. I would not want him in the house any longer after that kind of hurt. I'm sorry this happened to you - makes me wonder whether he's having an affair. He may find the "grass isn't greener once he leaves. I was married for 21 years.
Thank you for your reply as well, yes I plan to get a lawyer. I really would like for this to work but it seems like the end and I agree he thinks the grass is greener. I just know my life is going to come crashing down and he will be the one doing just fine, life seems to go that way.
Thank you so much for your very helpful advice, I know I need to work on what I want as well.
Hello, Renee i would advice you to take things easy ...My late mom told me that the fact that you lost something that is good does not mean you cannot find something better...