try to talk to an attorney, I know difficult without money. but be very careful, that was how i was with my ex, and then he brainwashed my children to thinking i was trying to hurt them and he got dcf involved and now he has temporary custody because he's an arrogant, controlling, maniupulating a-hole. I'm fighting to get them back even though dcf already found the claims false. But now he's turned them against me, please get out while you can.