Ami: Get whatever help you need. See if there is a women's services center nearby. Visit your local food pantry, if needed. See if there is anyone at the Bar Association who can finish your case for free "pro bono" since you lost your job. Look for work on line and/or visit your local Unemployment office. Perhaps you can find a responsible roommate to help ease the finances. You will probably have to sell the house and split any money you make on it with your husband.

Thanks for the advice!! How do you get notified on this when you receive a response? I will say to anyone going through this remove yourself from social media. I love instagram you can filter what you need to see and you don’t have to relieve the pain on fb with memories!

You are not alone, I left my husband in September, but like you I was out of the relationship a long time ago. I don't have a job, I was laid off in 2015, so I am now in school with a government program, but at the end of this semester, I'll be done and out of money. My husband drinks to the point of ridiculous and was verbally abusive for many years. The worst is that I still care about him. I also like you did all the finances and for several years was the sole bread winner of the house. I did all the cleaning all the finances and there was no intimacy. It was like living with a really bad room mate.

How are you doing now? It is a really bad roomate. I am living alone now and the cat is still living. Can’t bekieve it. She is my strength through this. Pretty sad that a 4 legged cat brings you comfort. I feel like i ended up like that crazy cat lady alone and talking to an animal lol

You are definitely not the only one who feels alone. I'm sorry about your cat. My cat was my baby and he died in my arms in May just two weeks after my grandmother died. My husband cheated on me most of last year with a man and now I'm going through a divorce. What's worse is that even though we are separated, we are still living in the same house. Don't give up. Fight for what is yours. I understand you have lost your job but don't let him get what he wants and you be without.

How are things going now? Did you move out? I left in February. Probably the hardest thing i have done. Being alone for the first time is so hard. You can’t seem to process the emotion and still drive by your condo. I went for my first interview. Starting to get out there but it’s not easy. That is the worst living together during the separation. I found things that pained me in so many ways. Here i sit still crying and it’s been a year process.

Ami: Sorry all this happened. My ex moved across the country back in 2009 and our daughter also moved far away to college and it was just me and the cat for 2 years. I was lucky to have met someone two years after the divorce, while my cat was dying and I had to put her to sleep (which cost hundreds of dollars adding to my credit card debt), I was sobbing. It took a while for my finances to improve and to be up to getting another cat. I hope you find a job soon and can get back to having a Lawyer/divorce and to have a better life. It takes a couple of years to move on emotionally from a divorce for most. Best wishes.