I agree with Janet. I didn’t realize my ex was a narcissist until we spectated and it was like a light was finally turned on in a dark room and it all became so clear. Once you realize the type of person he is you will know how to deal with him. Also do you think you can trust him again? Yes you have kids and a family unit but if you don’t have trust you really have nothing left. You can’t build any relationship without trust plains and simple.